I read your strongly worded and at times bizarre monologue ‘Just Another Rant’ for your performance at the Indian Today Conclave on International Women’s Day on March 8.
Let me place a couple of caveats here:
I am not a feminist/ chauvinist. I am pro women and men.
I have been a fan of yours ever since I went to the movies to watch DevD. I was totally blown with your social awareness ad campaign “Meri Galti Hai”.
So, when I found my friend had shared a transcript of your performance, I closed the excel sheet I was working on and started reading. Sadly, the piece you delivered at the India Today Conclave turned out to be just another rant. A Taj Mahal of clichés and stereotypes.
You begin your tirade with the done to death argument of God and the one unfair bit about God (that he supposedly created men as his reflection/ seeing his own reflection). Hence women have never had a chance in hell. Ok. So there was some man who devised this story/ fable thousands of years ago. Even if I accept the far-fetched idea that he was trying to attribute divinity to the male sex, my question is, women had a better chance to do the same, because they were the ones who had the power to pass on the story down from one generation to the next. They didn’t. Because, probably because paranoia as a concept and as a phenomenon was yet to spin its web. Then you start discussing Adam and Eve and how she is now blamed for the sins of mankind. This is one of the pillars of your argument of how a patriarchal society has always given women a hard deal. Ok. Not really. Why miss how Lucifer( who happened to be male) was named ‘Satan’ (derived from the word Shaitan), by the same people/ society for having committed the sin of ‘questioning’. By that same argument then, men were also against men? Hence, men were against women AND men. I think you do realise that this makes no sense, right?
Draupadi. She has long been considered the thumbnail for the entire app titled Indian Women. For what she faced, and for what she stood for. I was simply disheartened to see You, Kalki, using her to drive home a lame point like whether she liked marrying five people. Think for once, how Arjun/ Bheem/ any of the other five must have felt to share his wife with four others.
You suddenly portray acts of modesty/ grooming as chains that bind you, as sirens that grate your senses. You want to grow underarm hair till you can make braids with them, you want to pick your nose in public, not wear a bra etc. I am sure you approve of men scratching their balls, farting, sporting an erection in public.
I could have gone on and on rebutting the many points that you have raised (most of which are absurd/ backward/ reeking with please-sympathise-with- me-I-am-a-woman-sentiments)
See, the point I am trying to make here is that in order to be a feminist, or a young successful woman, you do not really need to be actively anti-men in thought. In order to celebrate Womens’ Day, you do not need to harp about what has or has not happened. You do not need to evoke sympathy. Because when you do, you fail all that you have stood for- the free, intelligent, intellectual woman.
An Ardent Fan